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If your mind is your reality, and mind is a stream of thoughts, then your state of mind (the thoughts you’re having) is reflected back to you by your reality. Smile, not just with your lips, but with your mind too 🙂



When someone begins to read what you’ve written, they’re allowing you and your words to change them.

Every time we experience something, we form new synaptic connections in our brain. So every time we read something, write something, listen to the radio, or have a conversation, etc., those experiences rewire and physically change our brain.

We’re in this constant state of change throughout our entire lives, from the moment the brain begins to form, right up until the moment of our death. So what’s important is that we become aware of what we’re interacting with, what kind of things we’re reading, what music we’re listening to, who we’re speaking with, etc., and how all of that stuff effects us. If we’re always listening to depressing, angry music, we’re going to start to develop those synaptic conections in our brain, and that’s going to effect how we act and how we react to the world. Same with reading and interacting with people. If we interact with very negative people, we’re going build negative associations with them. And over time those negative assocaitions spread and become more generalised, where we associate negativity with all people. So we start to think, oh I have to meet some people today, but to do that I have to leave my house and pass other people on the way, the world is such a negative place, I don’t want to meet anyone, I just want to stay at home and be alone. Life is shit. Alternatively, we can interact with nice, friendly, happy people (we choose the people we interact with, to a large degree). So even though we might meet some negative people by chance, we don’t have to spend much time engaging with them, so they have a minimal impact on our synaptic connections and our brain’s rewiring process.

All this brings me to the point of Blogging, or writing anything that’s going to be read by a large audience, or even a small audience. You have to remember, it’s a great honour to have your writing read by anyone, because, when that person begins to read what you’ve written, they’re allowing you and your words to change them. As they read your writing, their brains are physically changing. It’s changing who they are. THIS IS A BIG DEAL. Even if it’s on a level that’s barely recognisable, you’re changing someone’s personality, and in doing that you’re changing their life in some way. Those changes can be really small or they can be huge. You might give someone this massive insight into their life that makes them completely change and become an entirely new person, or they might miss the point and just be changed on some smaller level. But either way, the change happens.

So we can choose, when we’re writing , to write in a way that will positively effect people and give them a deeper awareness of themselves and a deeper understanding of life. Or we can write some kind of comedy sketch that gives them a laugh and helps them enjoy life. Or we could write complete shit and waffle, to confuse the crap out of people and send them into a depression. So it’s really important that we’re aware of how we effect the people that we write for. And being aware of that, I feel it’s very important that we do our absolute best to write the highest quality, most accurate, and beneficial information we can possibly offer to the world and to the people that read our blogs, articles, facebook posts, books, etc.

So that’s it. Be aware of what you’re writing. Take note of how it effects you. If you write something that inspires you and makes you feel good, then that’s what you should be writing. If it doesn’t inspire you or make you feel good, or you feel in doubt about it, then it’s not something you should be writing because it’s going to have that same affect on the people who read it.

Thanks for reading. It’s an honour to write for you 🙂 This post was transcribed from a conversation I had with myself. I do have some unusual, yet surprisingly informative conversations with myself 😛 I hope it had and is still having a positive impact on you.

Love ❤

Our fucked up reality

When I watched the film ‘The Matrix’ I remember thinking, ‘ooh, that’s some really crazy shit, so crazy, in fact, that there might be some truth to it.’ We could actually be locked into some made up, computer generated world. Now, years later, I find myself reading an article that says computers will, in the not too distant future, be capable of storing so much information that they’ll have enough space to store every single event that has happened since the big bang. As if that’s not crazy enough, to make things even more bizzar, I find out that this theoretical physicist, Dr James Gates, has found computer code written into the equations we use to describe the cosmos. Now that’s some seriously messed up, mind blowing information.

All of this begs the question, Is this some virtual reality, a computer simulation we’re living in, running on someone’s PC? I mean, computers that are capable of running every imagined senario, EVER. These computers will get to the point where they’re running a program, and the program its self won’t be able to distinguish whether it’s a program or not. Are we all just little programs written into the bigger program of reality? If this is all just one big computer program, you have to wonder how many of these simulations are there? Maybe this reality is a simulation on a computer within another simulation. There could be infinite simulations, all connected through some type of interdimensional internet. We really have no idea, but it is interesting to think about it.

Regardless of what this thing we call reality is, I think we can either spend a lifetime talking in circles, trying to answer these questions, or we can accept that it’s just not possible to ever know. Accepting things this way, as they are, leaves me thinking, ‘we are what we are, life happens, and we can choose to see it in a positive or negative light.’ We can accept that we’re here in this weird reality type thing and we can enjoy our existence or we can spend our entire life finding things to complain about. Personally, I choose a positive reality. What ‘REALITY’ program are you running in your life?

What is reality?

Brilliant video. We really don’t know shit!

Choosing a better reality

Isn’t it amazing how our inner state is always reflected in our outer environment. It’s like, if you wake up in a grumpy mood, your entire reality seems to reflect that grumpiness, whereas, if you wake up feeling happy and energised, the world seems like a brighter and much more welcoming place.


Well, according to neuroscience, if we repeat a thought often enough, that thought becomes a belief, which manifests as a state of being. So healthy, happy thoughts generate a happy, healthy state of being. And because our outer reality reflects our inner state of being… well, the effects speak for them selves.

With this in mind, I’ve set myself the intention of spending at least two minutes generating a happy, peaceful state of mind every morning before I step one foot out of my bed. Then at night, just before I go to sleep I plan on doing the same thing.

*The photo is of my very cool, happy two year old daughter, Aoife. A great reminder of this principle 🙂


One thing in life that has always fascinated me is how every one of us sees reality in a different way, from a unique perspective, and how those perspectives can give rise to infinite possibilities. If everyone on the planet witnessed the same event at the same time, no two people would see that event in the same way. So, although we all exist together in the here and now, in a sense, we’re all living in our own separate personal realities, with everyone’s version of reality intersecting to make up this intricate web of  a communal experience we call life.   


Infinite Realities 

Every one of us receives about 400 billion bits of information every second of every day, yet we only consciously perceive about two thousand bits of that information. To put these numbers into perspective, this is the same as having 10,000 cinema screens in front of you, all playing different movies, but only being able to watch one. So how do we decide which of these movies we should watch? What pieces of information do we decide are important enough to enter our conscious awareness and become our reality? And why do I choose to watch one movie (my interpretation of reality) while you choose to watch a different one? Well, this isn’t something we do consciously, rather it’s an unconscious process in which our brain’s filter into our conscious awareness only what they deem to be important to us. The parameters our brains use to make these decisions are made up from both genetically, hard wired instincts, and conditioned reactions we’ve learned through life experience. 


Perceptual Hierarchy: A walk in the park 

We have an in-built perceptual filtering hierarchy. Using this hierarchy, the brain prioritises events in the outside world by categorising them into levels of importance. At the top of the hierarchy are things that pose an immediate threat to our life. This is followed by things that could potentially hurt or injure us. Next on the list is hunger, closely followed by things that sexually arouse us. Underneath this are the things we consciously focus on. And below this is everything else.

To illustrate how this hierarchy works think of yourself walking down a forest path. As you wonder down the path, you consciously pay attention to the beauty of the brightly coloured flowers that give off such an intense aroma that they seem to transport you to some other place, leaving you in a type of waking trance. As you carry on down the path you suddenly stumble over a root that has risen above the ground. This quickly snaps your attention back into the present moment, allowing you to regain your balance. In this case, your conscious focus, which was on the scent and look of the flowers, is overridden by your body’s survival instinct. So as you trip, you completely forget about the flowers, as your awareness is drawn to something that could potentially do you harm. 

Now imagine, just as you recover from stumbling, you hear the sound of a wild animal growling behind you. Your awareness is refocused again, this time being taken away from the protruding root, and focused on the growling sound behind you. Because you think your life is in immediate danger, your brain overides all other perceptual awareness and brings this to the surface of your attention. As you slowly turn to face the wild animal, you realise it’s only a small dog on a leash. The dog’s owner pulling on the leash, looks up at you to apologise, and as he/she makes eye contact, you notice how beautiful he/she looks. Again, your awareness has shifted. Once you realised you were in no danger of being eaten alive, your brain re-evaluated your surroundings and brought your awareness to a lower level on the perceptual hierarchy. 

After saying hello to the dog owner and maybe exchanging numbers or arranging to meet for a tea or coffee, you carry on with your walk. Now that all the excitement is over, you drift back into that other world, noticing how vibrant the flowers are, until your mind is pulled back into the present for a second time, only this time there’s no danger to your life. This time it’s an empty feeling in your stomach, a feeling of hunger, that’s snapping your awareness back into the present moment. 


A fluctuating state of mind 

For most of us, our awareness is in a constant state of fluctuation, moving up and down the ladder of perceptual hierarchy, and because we’ve all learned to see everything a little differently, each of us will see the world from a different state of perceptual awareness. For example, you might have an exaggerated fear of bees because you were stung as a child, and learned that bees can really hurt you. Whereas my two year old daughter hasn’t been stung by a bee, nor does she even know that a bee could hurt her, and for that reason is content to happily chase them around the garden. Now imagine, you’re in a car and my daughter happens to be there too. The window is slightly open, and just as you drive onto a busy motorway, in flies a bee. Your state of awareness will be dramatically different from my daughter’s. And because your state of awareness is so different, you would both have completely different experiences of the same event. Yours being an experience of fear and terror, and my daughter’s being an experience of fun and adventure. 


Changing our perceptual filters 

So the question is, Can we change our perceptual filters? And the answer is yes, we can. Changing our perceptual filters requires us to look at a situation or event from a different perspective. To do this we need to first become aware of how we currently perceive the situation. Once we are aware of how we’re seeing things, we can concentrate on looking at the situation from a new angle, a fresh perspective. How do we do this? We use some simple visualisation techniques. My favourite is to imagine the event from another person’s point of view. So let’s take the example of a bee flying in through the window of your car. As you sit there, you know you can’t just jump out of a fast moving car. So, instead, you put yourself in my daughter’s shoes and you try to see things from her perspective. You think to yourself, “oh, hello mr. bee, I’m so happy you’ve joined us today. We’re going to the park, you’ll love it there.” Getting into that frame of mind, becoming playful and meeting the situation assuming the best outcome rather than the worst, has a powerful effect, not just on our own behaviour, but also on the behaviour of the bee. 


In the same way reality responds to our state of being, so do the things within our surroundings. this is a bit like walking into a room where there has just been a big argument. Walking into that room, you immediately feel uncomfortable and stressed. Whereas, if we walk into the same room just after an uplifting event has taken place, a child’s birthday party, for example, we respond by feeling happy and uplifted. 


So changing our perceptual filters not only changes how we see an event, it also changes how the event unfolds in response to our perception of it. In relation to the bee in your car; it flies in through the window, and instead of attacking you, as you try to swat and kill it, it flies around for a few seconds, you wind down all the windows, and it flies back out. 


One of the best and easiest ways of changing perspective, when dealing with another person, is to simply try see the situation from their point of view. So If you get into an argument with someone, pause for a moment and ask yourself why is that person reacting the way they are. Doing this, and really trying to think like the other person, develops empathy, and as empathy develops, it gives birth to compassion. Compassion is probably the most powerful perceptual filter, a perceptual filter we should all work on developing. 


Try experimenting with different perceptual filters and notice how you’re better able to deal with the more difficult things in life. For those of us training in the warrior traditions, it’s essential that we learn to alter our perception. Doing this gives us new ways of looking at situations that we would otherwise see as impassable mountains on our path, in both combat and in life. 


Learning to change our perceptual filters opens up infinite possibilities, possibilities we would never have considered had we not learned how to see things from different perspectives.


Our brains are in a constant state of change, with their neural circuitry being rewired with every experience we have. In fact, neuroscience tells us that the simple act of turning on your laptop/Pc, typing on your keyboard, reading these words, and even scratching your nose,  has physically changed your brain’s structure and function, in a process called neuroplasticity.

While this process is entirely natural, using the right techniques, we’re able to guide it in a way that can positively influence our state of being and the way we live our lives.

The Basic Concept

  • Neurons that fire together, wire together.
  • Neurons that fire apart, wire apart.

What does this mean? In simple terms, every time we process an experience, an area of the brain associated with that experience becomes active. So neurons in that area light up with activity. When we have more than one experience at a time, separate parts of the brain become active at the same time. If, for example, I hear a bell ring just as I have an experience that excites me, the areas of my brain that process the ringing of a bell and the emotional reaction of excitement will both light up at the same time.

Normally this wouldn’t have any unusual effect on us. However, if we have those two experiences at the same time, over and over again, the two areas of the brain that activate together will begin to form a relationship. This relationship links these two experiences, writing them into our neural circuitry. This means if, after this relationship has been formed, I hear the ringing of a bell, not only will the area of my brain associated with that particular sound become active, but so will the area associated with excitement. So, simply hearing the bell ring will excite me.

The second part of this rule says we can break this neural relationship. This basically works in the opposite way. So, using the same example, if I ring a bell over and over again without stimulating an experience of excitement, the relationship between the two areas of my brain begins to deteriorate, until, finally, hearing the sound of the bell has no effect upon me.

These relationships are constantly forming and deteriorating, usually without our conscious awareness, as we move through life. But the key to using this biological process to our advantage is to, firstly, become aware of it, and, secondly, consciously begin forming new relationships, in our brain, that benefit us. Traditionally, this has been achieved through the use of mantra and mudra, in both Yoga and the esoteric schools of the martial arts, techniques I’ll explore in a later post.


In my interview with Joe Dispenza, he said the following about reality: “Your personality creates your personal reality. So if you want to create a new personal reality, then on a fundamental level, you would have to change some way you think, act or behave, otherwise you’re trying to create a new personal reality as the same personality.” This is why so many of us get stuck before getting off the starting blocks on our journey of personal transformation.

The process of conscious change recommended by Joe Dispenza is achieved in two stages.

  • Firstly, we need to become aware of what we want to change. This is where we take an honest look at the relationships we’ve spent a lifetime forming in our brain.
  • Secondly, we need to think about who we wish to become. In this essence, we need to think about the new relationships we would like to form in our brain.

The Key to Change

Joe explains the key to lasting change. “If you fully allow yourself to participate in this two-step process, to the exclusion of everything else, your frontal lobe begins to quieten down all the circuits in the rest of the brain, and your present thought becomes your experience. The moment this happens, the experience produces an emotion and you begin to feel like that new ideal of yourself. As you begin to feel differently, your body becomes conditioned to a new mind.” This is where the magic happens: where our thoughts become reality.

The Bottom Line

Your brain is physically changing and rewiring itself every time you have an experience. We can, if we choose to, guide this biological process in a positive direction by making small changes to our lifestyle and how we use our mind. “Decide who you want to be. If your personality creates your personal reality, and you are clear about who you want to be, you will move into a new state of being; a new state of being means a new personality, and a new personality creates a new reality,” says Joe Dispenza.

Have fun creating a new reality with every new experience you choose to have.

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